In the past, fathers were not talked about much in books on “how to” raise children. The mother was the important person.
That changed when more women went to work. Men began to play a bigger role in the lives of their kids.
A new book talks about the importance of dads. Researchers are learning more about the role father’s play before babies are born. “Most of us know that a women who becomes pregnant should stick to healthy foods and quit smoking,” the author writes.
Not only do fathers pass on some of their genetic traits, but research now suggests some fathers’ health issues can affect the unborn child. The author says, “it might be wise for men who are about to become fathers to think about their health. About what they should be eating even before their wives or partners become pregnant.”
Fathers play a vital role after the baby is born.
Children should grow up feeling loved and nurtured by their fathers as well as their mothers. They will have higher self-esteem. They will be at a lower risk of becoming mentally ill later in life. A caring father is as important as a loving mother to a child’s long-term welfare.
Fathers are good at the kind of rough and tumble behavior children welcome. When they aid in housework, they help to dispel traditional ideas about the roles of men and women.
Does it matter if dad is a gay man – or a woman? Research is showing that children raised by same-sex couples do as well as kids raised in two-sex homes.
Maybe being a good dad has little to do with gender or sexual identity.
Source: The New York Times July 14, 2014